Improving Your Confidence Level


One of my favorite sayings is “Think you can, think you can’t either way you’re right.”  It is simple and straight forward and it captures the truth for anyone who wants to improve their situation.  If you want your personal life to excel, for your business to grow or for your success to increase you must learn the value of improving your confidence level.  How you see yourself creates a filter for how you see everything else.  It has been said that you cannot consistently act in a way that is inconsistent with your thoughts.  So if you want to see positive changes you have got to begin to see yourself differently.

Building self-esteem is not as difficult as some may think, but it is something that you must work on everyday.  If you let your self-confidence muscle grow it will become a strong foundation by which everything else in your life is built.  Let’s face it, weak leaders don’t create strong organizations.  If you want to have a strong organization or a strong life, you must build your self-confidence level. I am not speaking of being arrogant, but being confident.  You were born in the image of your creator and there is no reason for you not to be confident in who you are and what your potential may be.

Here are some ways that you can build your self-confidence level:

1)  Create a healthy view of yourself
Remind yourself of the good qualities you possess, your accomplishments, achievements and how you may have added value to your family and friends.    This doesn’t mean you should ignore your weaknesses or make excuses for them.  But simply be grateful and confident in the good things that have happened and the great things that could happen if you grow in your self-confidence.  Change your view of yourself and focus on the right things.

2)  Choose your peers wisely
Surround yourself with those who are positive and supportive and avoid those who are cynical and negative.  Doing this simple act of “positive association” will revolutionize your thinking and begin a tidal wave of self-confidence.  There is an old proverb that says “Bad company corrupts good morals.” If you associate with the negative you will be negative, but if you associate with the positive, it will create an energy that will propel your confidence level.

3)  Be clear about what you want in life.
Set goals and take action.  Accomplish one goal at a time.  This will put a “win” under your belt and help you feel more confident that the next goal is obtainable.  Why do you think weight loss centers have people check their progress weekly.  By doing this it encourages to keep going.  Work hard toward each goal, celebrate each accomplishment and it will help you stay on track to achieve what you once thought impossible.

4)  Never put yourself down
Avoid the temptation of negative thinking.  This is a sure-fire way to destroy any chance of building self-confidence.  If something doesn’t go as planned or if what you tried failed, then learn from it and move on.  Do not beat yourself up.  You will never grow this way.  There are literally hundreds of thoughts passing in and out of your mind every minute.  Some are positive and some are negative…but it is your choice to which one you will dwell on.

Until next time,

Chris Sonksen

“Management is doing things right,
leadership is doing the right things.”
Peter Drucker

Chris Sonksen is a celebrated Motivational Speaker and Published Author; the Lead Pastor at one of America’s fastest growing churches (South Hills Church in Corona California); and the founding member of Celera Church Strategy Group. Celera offers pastor support, teaching, training and mentoring programs that equip pastors who want to learn how to grow church attendance through evangelism using proven church growth techniques.


About Chris Sonksen

Chris Sonksen is the founder and Lead Pastor of South Hills Church and has an exceptional ability to inspire both secular and non-secular audiences. Under his leadership, South Hills has experienced phenomenal growth and in just a few short years has grown from a handful of people to nearly 3000 in attendance today. Today South Hills has become a thriving, multi-service and multi-site church. Chris has a magnetic, captivating and humorous style for motivating and inspiring all audiences. As a motivational speaker, he has spoken both nationally and internationally in companies such as Verizon, Securitas and Home Depot, and there is no doubt that by applying his teachings, his audience will improve the quality of their lives! Chris is the author of two books In Search of Higher Ground and Handshake. Chris is the founder of Celera Church Strategy Group an organization with an unwavering commitment to excellence in all things, with the goal to “raise the national average of church attendance,” by equipping church leaders with resources and coaching. Chris brings high-energy focus and a passion for vision and leadership to encourage and equip the local Church. Chris is a native Californian, born in Long Beach and currently resides in Corona with his wife, Laura and their two children, Grace and Aidan.

Posted on May 28, 2009, in Leadership, Personal Growth and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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